Breakthrough coaching
Live life by your own rules!
Does it feel like there’s always someone standing in your way, regardless of which direction you choose?
What if that person was you?
- Does it feel like you’re living a life based on someone else’s rules?
- Do you find yourself coming up against the same obstacles, over and over again?
- Do you feel trapped in a life that doesn’t feel like your own?
- Do you come up against an invisible limit that you just can’t get past?
- Are you stuck in some area of your life and you just don’t know what’s stopping you?
- Do you live your life according to a list of “shoulds” and “ought to’s”?
- Do you find yourself living in fear of being found out? – thinking "If only they knew what I was really like”
- Do you seem to always put others first – no matter the consequences to yourself?
Sometimes no matter how much we want to achieve something, we never seem to get beyond a certain point.
Breakthrough coaching uncovers the rules that you live by, the unconscious beliefs that determine what you think, how you feel, and the decisions you make.
These rules may seem to help you manage your life, but in reality may be what’s stopping you from accepting yourself as you are, and of getting what you really want. They can ultimately lead to self-critical thinking that negatively impacts your self-esteem and confidence.
The rules that more often than not, stand in the way of you doing the things that you’d really love to do, and being all that you long to be can:
- Stop you from taking action, or make you delay taking action
- Create self-sabotaging, restrictive behaviours
- Cause inner conflict
- Make you feel uncomfortable in your life
- Keep you stuck
- Negatively define your identity
- Undermine your confidence and self-worth
- Ultimately stop you from having the life you want
Limiting rules can affect the way other people respond to us.
For example:
“A woman I worked with was struggling with how others perceived her. After working together for while, we realised that her underlying problem was a lack of self-esteem. At some point she had decided “I am an island, I don't need anybody”. Her attitudes and behaviours reflected this, and she was pushing people away.
By identifying what her limiting rule was she was able to break through it, replace it with a new rule which serves her, and build a new, more positive attitude.
As a result she is able to recognize when unhelpful behaviours are setting in and to work towards more helpful patterns instead. She has developed a new, more supportive rule for living.” – Fi Ivin
Your beliefs may be based on cultural expectations, the messages you took in from family, friends and teachers, or decisions you’ve made about life based on past experiences. These rules and beliefs now form the fundamental rules that you live your life by.
Are the rules you live by your own?
We can’t change the past but we can alter how we feel about it and create a brighter future.
Break the pattern – write your own rules!
- Realise what’s holding you back
- Uncover what your bedrock beliefs are
- Assess and evaluate whether or not they serve you
- Let go of those that don’t
- Replace them with positive beliefs that support you
- Define yourself, and your life according to your own rules!
As with any change, it’s crucial to have support through this challenging process.
The coaching relationship provides a safe, supportive environment for you to explore your limiting beliefs and rules for living in a gentle, constructive way, and create a set of new positive rules that will support you to live your best life.
Contact me now to book a session, or find out more about how Breakthrough Coaching can help you move forward in your life!
